I copy and paste things from books to my email. Eventually I print them out. Sadly, I often fail to give a reference to myself. Perhaps with the help of internet search engines I can provide author and text for some of the numerous pages of quotes I have!
I found the first one is by Jodi Picoult from her book Leaving Time. I will explain how it applies to me. I think you will find you too can relate!
“My father died last year,” Thomas said. “I still look for him in crowds.” “I’m sorry.” He shrugged. “I think grief is like a really ugly couch. It never goes away. You can decorate around it; you can slap a doily on top of it; you can push it to the corner of the room, but eventually, you learn to live with it.”Jodi Picoult Leaving Time
My father died almost 58 years ago and my mother died 44 years ago. I no longer look for them in crowds. But Mr. and Mrs. Sommer, yes. Rita and Joe Lerant, yes. My most recent loss was my mother-in-law, Betty Dutina, especially when we are shopping or traveling and I spontaneously think, “Oh! She would like that.”
Judy, at church, died after a long battle with cancer. I missed her at our church outreach passing out glue sticks to children and the church choir for a performance of a song from The Greatest Show. I often see a vehicle that will remind me of the one she drove and have to remind myself to pray for her two sons who remain on earth.
Yes, grief is like an ugly couch.I miss my mother more often than I care to admit. My father-in-law was a more recent loss and I miss him as I look at his bobble-head ball player that we inherited. My own Dad has been gone so long I have difficulty describing that loss.
There is likely someone you look for in crowds. I know from experience the Lord will comfort you in your grief.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.Matthew 5:4 (NIV2011)